Sometimes it comes from the very people who are closest to us. Maybe it’s your nosy neighbor asking you when you are going to get married every time she sees your partner and you leaving the house. Maybe you just got married and it’s your friends asking you when are you going to get a little one. Or maybe it’s your parents telling you what you should study or that you should go to college. Whatever it is, the pressure to conform to family norms and by extension societal norms is real!
It’s always a push to conform. Sometimes it can affect us so much that we actually start to believe that the societal norm is what we should want for ourselves. Sad to say, irregardless of our deep rooted feelings to do otherwise, sometimes we do conform. After all we’re human and we all have that need for love and belongingness. To follow the pack is not uncommon, nor am I saying that it is always a bad thing but for me, right now, I think it’s that “sheep like system” that starves our soul, reeling in our true happiness like a fisherman with a hook.
Conformity and Passion
I came across an article in a local magazine recently with a quote that read “Light yourself on fire and people will come from miles to watch you burn.” I was like “Man, I’d love that kind of passion and so I started to ask myself for the umpteenth time, “What is my passion?”
Every single time I asked myself that question I would come up empty handed. Instead of asking myself what excites me I was thinking of ways to reach that level. Where my passion is so bright that it intoxicates others. I would think of things like going back to school, doing my masters, achieving a high paying job. Those types of things. Slowly though, while comparing my thoughts to the quote I began to realize I wasn’t getting the answer to what my passion was because I was looking for it in all the wrong places. The pressure to conform to what society thought I ought to do next, was getting in the way of me exploring my true self. The pressure to conform was like a roadblock towards discovering and acting on my passion.
So now, I’m on a mission to color outside the lines of conformity! I believe that when you know what sets you on fire, you can identify who you are. And once you know who you are, you know exactly what you want to do and don’t want to do.
John F. Kennedy once said “Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.” In that case, don’t let the pressure to conform make you regret the opportunities you have now. Break free and color outside the lines of sometimes because John Doe down the street don’t have to live with the decisions you make today. After all nobody can tell you how to be you!
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